I try to be forgiving and understand why people act the way they do. I don't want to "hate" anyone (b/c my Mom always taught me that wasn't allowed.) I don't want to spend my thoughts daydreaming of choking someone. Enter Mother-in-Law.
I met this little woman (barely 90 lbs.) when I first started dating my hubby. She was bubbly, cheerful, funny, sweet. I thought "Oh thank GOODNESS I have a M-I-L I can be friends with!" She liked gardening, she drank wine, she was funny and kooky! GREAT!
Well, after the first meeting came the first E-MAIL. In this dripping with self-righteousness, hateful email she asserted that I was bound for hell if I tempt her son into having sex without being married, etc. etc. and how she doubted I had read my Bible. I couldn't believe it! Was this the same woman I had shared wine and laughs and dinner with? Was this the same woman I had spent 3 days making a special planter box for, filled with my own flowers, for Mother's Day? I never even got a "Thank you!" for the gift.
Since then, dealing with M-I-L has never been easy. I get at least 6 emails a day spewing evil about gay people, democrats, abortion, and on and on and on. Of course, she backs her vileness with religion b/c luckily M-I-L can find some scripture that says democrats go to hell.
The last email I read from M-I-L was 3 months ago. I hadn't heard from her in a personal email that wasn't forwarded in nearly 6 months, and I hadn't seen her or talked to her in over a year. It was two sentences. Here they are:
"Why do you call him Ben! His father and I named him Benton Christopher!" Oops. I guess that's another reason I'm condemned to hell. The next email she sent she was asking me for money. My hubby is TIGHT and we don't mix our money, so she begs me for money. Did I mention she has rarely ever worked and her hubby is an accountant?
My struggle is that I want to rise above M-I-L and not get so upset. I try to feel sorry for her and not get angry. Help!!!
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I think we all have issues with our MIL's. Luckily for me, my hubby decided to have nothing to do with his mom, who lives several states away. Aside from her stalking my blog, we have no contact. When we did, it was horrible, so this is for the best. Sometimes you just gotta let go. I hope you can work things out with yours.
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